I’m successful. Am I successful? What is success?
I have no idea how women work and take care of a family at the same time. I’ve been failing miserably at it for a few years now. I took the summer off and spent every single minute of every day with my kidlets. I loved every stinkin’ minute of it.
This summer I was present. I was 100% in tune with who my kids are and important life changing conversations took place. Conversations about sex, drugs, violence, bullying, war, poverty… you name it, we covered it. My kids were engaged. I was present.
Balance
Balance, it’s a ridiculous word… nothing is every balanced forever, now is it? Think about it. Things are in balance, and it isn’t a permanent state. Nothing is, so we women folk should stop being so hard on ourselves. Get over it. Balance is a verb, it’s constant motion … accept it. Word.
My family deserves better
I’m not going to let the “shiny” cheat my kids of me. I’m pretty darn fantastic, so really, it’s a crime for me to be a workaholic! I love what I do and I’ll keep doin’ it, but there’ll be less of my fabulosity to go around. If yer lucky enough to be offered a slice of me, treat me well, ya hear?
Organize. Balance. Order. Prioritize. If I have these with work but not at home, well – that isn’t exactly success is it?
My stats may suck, my bank account is empty, my workload is light – but my family has actually eaten a healthy home cooked meal 4 nights in a row. Oh, and the christmas wrapping paper tub is no longer sitting in the middle of my closet…. amazing.
I shall succeed.
You said it lady! I’ve been struggling with this issue the past two weeks. Great to hear I’m not the only kook freaking out about what I’m missing out on.
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I think it is easy to get all wrapped up … my husband is so supportive of my professional life that sometimes he forgets to ask for more from my personal life. It seems like it is hard but time flies by so quickly – bah, now i feel old
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You are my idol. You were actually able to move a container out of the middle of the floor and put it where it belongs? Astonishing. I don’t even know what color my carpet is anymore. I think it was beige. I’ve given up on balance in my life. Now, success for me is being able to brush my teeth in the morning. Some days I’m successful, other days, not so much!
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You got that right Fiona, the money we make will just fly out the window anyway plus what will we remember when our children are grown up? The hours that we slaved away or the times spent laughing and crying with them?
I too feel the need to step back and pay more attention to my husband who accepts it all from his crazy wife!
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